Some of the Ways we can Support
Survivors of Domestic Violence

  • We believe them. We let them know that we believe them.
  • We recognize their strengths and survival skills.
  • We don't ask judgmental questions
          (often questions that start with " Why" have a judgmental tone).
  • We don't blame them.
  • We don't evaluate them.
  • We don't hold cultural biases: we are not sexist, racist, and homophobic.
  • We encourage them to make their own decisions.
  • We don't patronize them.
  • We allow them privacy.
  • We don't question their need for shelter or protection if they make contact with their partners.
  • We refrain from labeling.
  • We don't assume that leaving an abusive partner will set them free.
  • We don't tell them what God wants them to do.
  • We validate and/or understand their positive even loving feelings toward their partner.
  • We advise them about realistic outcomes of counseling for their partner.
  • We respect their religious beliefs.
  • We respect their judgment about the situation.
  • We don't offer couple counseling.
  • We offer options not advice.
  • We create bridges in the community.

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